Iceburg Housing: BYU-I Student Living Focused Management

What is student living?

Student Living is building Zion through love, shared responsibility, and mutual respect.

Select one of the principles below to learn more about student living.


Shared Responsibility

Mutual Respect

As students of BYU-I, developing holistic love for those around us is not a new concept. We know as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints how Christ demonstrated service and compassion to all through love, regardless of whether they supported or refused him. 

Love is the first principle of the idea of Student Living. Having love for God broadens our capacity to show and feel love for others, even though, to quote the director of student housing, we won’t “exist in a theoretical realm of perfection” by showing and feeling love one time. Instead, it will be actualized in the “way we live together in the face of reality,” having to repeatedly, lovingly address difficult situations. 

With Student Living in BYU-I apartments, the goal is not to gloss over problems with “love” as an ideal standard and leaves problems unfinished, but the goal is having a method of working through problems to find peace and solutions. Showing genuine love means that discussions will be less shouting and more understanding, and acts of service will be done out of kindness and not begrudgement or spite.
In Student Living, shared responsibility doesn’t mean having each roommate take turns loading and unloading the dishwasher, although that’s not a bad idea. It means acknowledging that we each have a responsibility to each other and to ourselves to honor our commitments, whether religious, familial, or scholarly, and a shared responsibility to encourage one another to fulfill our commitments and covenants. It is built off of the first principle as roommates have shared the responsibility to behave with integrity due to love for God and His children. 

The responsibility that roommates share is support and strength for one another to create a household where you are comfortable needing help, as we all do, and are comfortable giving help, which we all can.
Mutual respect is esteem between two people created by someone’s intrinsic value as a person. Having mutual respect between you and your roommates will allow you to see each other as people, and as children of God, instead of as annoyances or interruptions. This third principle of Student Living is further developed when the first principles of love and shared responsibility create a relationship between you and another. 

Through mutual respect, people can identify what makes others unique as people without picking pieces to dislike. A temple representative speaking to the student housing director explained that people are like sunsets: when you see them, you note and accentuate the positive parts instead of wishing there was more to appreciate. Viewing people in this way, acknowledging that they won’t be perfect but will be human, removes labels and stops a lot of the disrespect and unnecessary criticism that comes with introductions. 

We're a team, not a hierarchy.

Together, all four of these groups of people create the love, shared responsibility, and mutual respect that makes up Student Living. There is no linear structure, but rather it is a circle where we all share equal weight. Click on each of the quarters of the circle to learn more about each group's responsibilities.


Roommates are friends, not snitches

We know there are all kinds of issues with roommates both not living the principles of Student Living, and with roommates trying to get everyone else to live them or report people to the honor code office every day. We also know there are some people in the middle who don't really care either way. What we want to address now is a question many of you might have: What is your role as a roommate, and how can you create an environment where all feel uplifted and welcome?

Let's start with some basic tips:
1. You choose your environment.
We know it can be hard when you live with roommates of all personalities and backgrounds, but the principle remains the same. If you want to live a life of partying, loud music, and friends, we believe you can create it. If you want to create an environment of peace and safety, you can create that too. The tricky part is, of course, when one of each of these people are suddenly living in the same apartment. We'll address that in a moment. But first, take a second and answer this question: What environment do you want in your student living situation?

2. Communication is key.
You've heard it before, and you'll hear it again. Please, please, please talk and listen to your roommates. Let's give a scenario. Let's say we have a situation where a student is breaking curfew every single night. Their roommates hear them come in, make food, and go to bed. One roommate, who hasn't really talked to the curfew-breaker because they're often gone, decides to send in a report to the honor code office. This roommate doesn't talk to anyone about this, and doesn't even take the time to ask their roommate why they're out so late or anything of the kind. Of course, the tardy roommate gets reached out to by the honor code office and is fuming because as it turns out, they work late every night and, well, money is money.
Which roommate are you? Perhaps one of the other roommates who doesn't care, but we want to make something very clear: ALWAYS talk to each other before talking to the authoritative figures. 99% of the time, roommate issues can be resolved by some simple, non-aggressive conversation. Ask your roommates to turn down music if you want to sleep, don't just be angry about it. Explain your feelings to your roommates. Ask your roommates for help in understanding if you're struggling with the decisions they're making. If you feel you have a reason to do something that isn't in line with the honor code, take a moment and explain it to your roommates.


3. Be your brother/sister's keeper, not their prison guard or their parent.
"I would be my brother's keeper; I would learn the healer's art. To the wounded and the weary I would show a gentle heart." (Hymns, #220)
We are all in this together (you're welcome for getting that song stuck in your head) in creating an environment of love, shared responsibility, and mutual respect. Everyone here is in a very similar situation in life, and everyone is on equal ground. Work with your roommates, not below them or above them. Respect each other, and always seek to lift and love. Be friends and advocates for each other, not accusers and enemies.

4. Apartment Councils
Apartment councils are a perfect way to accomplish tip #2. We think they're the best invention ever, because it creates an easy and structured time and place to discuss things and grow in love for each other. Choose a time each week and meet together as a group. Follow and reference to know how to create an ideal apartment council.

Apartment Managers

That's us!

First and foremost, we are here to help you. We really want to make sure that our properties have a feeling of love and upliftment, and we certainly want to make sure our students live the school's principles of student living explained at the top of this page. We make sure we're familiar with the principles and standards of living that you're asked to know, and we do what we can to help everyone in our care know them too. We establish expectations with all our staff including assistant managers. And, of course, we make sure we are living up to the standards we set for you. We wouldn't want to live any less. 

Please know that we are here and we are open. Come to us with questions (we hope we have answers), concerns, as well as positive experiences! We will do what we can to help you. 

Ecclesiastical Leaders

Stake Presidents, Bishops, and...Home Evening Group Leaders?

We love our bishops and stake presidents, and guess what? They are asked to know and live the principles of student living too! We'll talk about them in a second.
First, we want to take a second and talk about the last leader we listed. We know "FHE Moms and Dads" aren't exactly seen as "ecclesiastical leaders" but they do have a key role with their church calling to promote the principles of student living. How many of you know that there are student living lessons? How many of you have one weekly at your Home Evening activities? That's okay if you didn't know, because it's never too late to start. BYU-Idaho provides six student living lessons that are basically a crash course on how to be a perfect roommate. If you're an FHE group leader, these are super nice because it's a pre-made spiritual thought right there that easily invites discussion from the group.
Now, we can't forget about our wonderful stake presidents and bishops. As we mentioned before, they know the student living principles too and they are asked to help you live them. Bishops also have the important responsibility of calling your FHE coordinators and group leaders.
These leaders are another great resource to resolve concerns and answer questions!



In order for an apartment complex to be approved BYU-Idaho housing, they must agree to maintain the standard of student living set by the university. The university provides resources to anyone who wants them, including students, staff, apartment owners and managers, and church leaders. To promote the principles of student living, BYU-Idaho has a webpage with several links to different resources. To learn more from the university, go to their website at the link below.
Ask yourself these questions:
-How can I build Zion in my own apartment?
-What impact can my love for God have on my relationships with my roommates?
-How can I show love for my roommates in practical ways?
-What does it mean to be my brother's keeper?
-In what practical ways can I exemplify mutual respect in my apartment?
-How can I be a better roommate?

At Iceburg Housing we hope to help you find the answers to these questions by implementing the three principles of student living.

As approved housing managers of BYU-Idaho student housing we work to create the best environment for all students. Creating a safe, social and spiritually conducive living space allows us to contribute to the mission of BYU-Idaho of creating disciple leaders.
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